Sunday, December 23, 2007
Friday, December 07, 2007
I have to share something that happened to me tonight. I have not been using the air conditioner during the day and it gets pretty hot in the house. This afternoon after the boys woke up from their naps we were pretty hungry but it was far too hot to cook... So we headed off to the mall to eat at Furrs and then let Auron run off some energy.
We sat down at the table (like always), unloaded our tray (like always), said our prayer of thanks (like always), and were about halfway through our meal when an older gentleman stopped at our table.
"Excuse me Mam... I noticed your dog tags, is your husband marching through the sand?"
"No Sir. Not yet at least..."
"Is he in town with you?"
"No Sir, He is gone for training right now."
"Oh, how long has he been gone?"
"About seven months, but he will be home soon."
"Hmmm, (as he takes the ticket off my table) Well, I'm going to take care of this for you today."
And before I had time to do anymore than stutter a timid "thank you", he was gone. I burst into tears. Auron thought something was wrong because I sat there sobbing like a baby. This random stranger reached out to do something kind for me and touched my heart beyond words.
You hear people talk about supporting our troops all the time, but those who are not in the military seldom think about the families attached to those troops. It is not hard to be a military family ONLY when your soldier is in a war zone. It is hard every day... especially when we are apart. Training and non-war deployments are hard for military families too and so often people loose sight of that fact. This complete stranger acknowledged that with a simple (and wonderfully touching) random act of kindness that I will always remember.
Sunday, October 21, 2007
|Your Attitude is Better than 50% of the Population|
You have a positive attitude... somtimes. You prefer to see the world through clear glasses, not rose colored ones.
|Your Stress Level is: 69%|
You are prone to stress, and you're probably even pretty stressed right now.
Life's problems seem to pile up on you, and this often makes you feel depressed and burned out.
Learn to take time to relax and enjoy life, even if things are stressful. It's the only wa you'll get through the bad times.
|You Communicate With Your Ears|
You love conversations, both as a listener and a talker.
What people say is important to you, and you're often most affected by words, not actions.
You love to hear complements from others. And when you're upset, you often talk to yourself.
Music is very important to you. It's difficult to find you without your iPod.
Saturday, October 20, 2007
I got to make a surprise last minute visit to see my husband at the base last weekend. I didn't tell him I was coming to see him, I just sort of showed up. He was way happy to see me and I was thrilled to be in the same zip code with him for 24 hours. I left Auron with Mom and Dad again so I could make the trip a bit easier and be a little more selfish with the precious little time we had together. (Thanks My-maw and Paw! You guys ROCK!) I was sitting in the parking lot waiting when he got released for the weekend and walked out onto the pad. I called his cell phone:
Me: Hey Babe! What are you doing?
Him: Oh, I'm just walking around. What are you doing?
Me: I'm just sitting in the parking lot watching you walk around.
Him: (looking up and grinning ear to ear) WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE!!??
We had a good visit (and GREAT nookie), and he got to bond with Xander a little more too. I have to take a pregnancy test in another two weeks now though. Condoms are great for preventing pregnancy... when they DON'T rip. I'm not too worried about it because I'm still nursing Xander and that tends to be a natural birth control method in itself, but the whole situation has made me even MORE aware of how strange Catholics are in certain beliefs.
Here are a group of people who think any form of unnatural birth control (even when used by married couples) is a sin. They believe God created the Heavens and the Earth and everything in them in six days... but for some reason they think that if God wants you to conceive a child... a little latex is going to get in His way. Lets face it folks... When God wanted Jesus to be conceived... he didn't even let a perfectly intact hymen stop Him!
I'm not being disrespectful at all... just stating the facts as I see them... I just seem to be a bit more blunt than most might.
Oh well... If I do turn up expecting an unexpected baby again... I'm just going to look at it as God giving me a valid excuse for my insanity! :)
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Saturday, October 06, 2007
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Friday, September 07, 2007
(For those of you who don't know... that is a reference to a move called Empire Records.)
DAMN THE MAN!!!!
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Sunday, August 05, 2007
August 2, 2007
5 lbs. 8 oz.
18 inches long
Friday, July 20, 2007
Sunday, June 17, 2007
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
That sounds redundant I know, but there is a story here I promise. Three years ago in December my husband gave me a ring. I put it on my finger and we started making wedding plans. He never officially ASKED me to marry him. The conversation went something like this:
He gives me the ring (we were broke so it was tiny and well… budget appropriate) tied to a purple feather rose.
Me: “what is this?”
Him: “what do you THINK it is?”
Me: (tears) “NO… What IS this?”
Him: “what does it look like it is?”
Me: (more tears) “Are you SURE?”
Him: (goofy grin) “Of course I’m sure… I love you.”
Me: “I love you too, but are you sure your sure?”
Me: (crying and holding out my hand for him to put the ring on me)
Him: “So… is that a yes?”
I admit that I was disappointed that it was not more romantic than that, but at that point I had waited three years for him to decide he wanted to marry me and was just thrilled he had finally decided that I was a keeper. I spent the better part of two years picking on him over the fact that he never ASKED me to marry him. He promised to upgrade my ring to something prettier as soon as we could afford it. I told him that when we could get the ring I wanted that he was GOING TO give me a “real” proposal to one day tell my children about. I picked on him and told him it had to be WAY romantic and sappy.
We really couldn’t afford the ring I wanted, but my husband (being the great guy he is) insisted we get it with our tax return this year anyway. I told him no… we had a new baby coming and couldn’t spend money on something that frivolous. He told me to order it anyway because “you deserve it honey.” I compromised and agreed to get the ring but NOT the diamond for the center. I told him I was perfectly content wearing a CZ for the next forty years or so. By the time the ring was delivered I was just so thrilled to have one that was beautiful and unique enough to symbolize those same things in our marriage that I told him the ring was enough by itself… he didn’t have to propose to me. I have been quite happily wearing my new ring since mid March.
Darrell left for boot camp at 4:30PM last Tuesday. We spent the majority of Monday and Tuesday before he left holding each other and the kids and crying. We HATE being apart. At about 2PM I was laying beside my husband on our living room floor while the kids played around us. I had my head on his shoulder and my left hand on his chest and we were both in tears. Suddenly he reached for my hand and pulled my ring off. He looked at it for a moment and then touched the bottom of my chin to make me look him in the eye.
“Melissa, will you marry me?”
I couldn’t do anything except bury my head in his shoulder and sob as he slipped my ring back onto my finger.
Just when I think it is impossible to love him anymore than I already do… he proves me wrong again. I love him more every day and could never ask for a better husband. He is so much more than I deserve and my heart aches for when we can be together again. I am not whole without him.
Sunday, May 06, 2007
Once again I can not sleep.
I have nine days left with my husband.
For those of you in blogland who do not know the news yet... My husband joined the Army. He leaves for basic training on Tuesday May 15th. He will not be home for the birth of our son. I am not looking forward to this situation. I prayed far too long and hard about this to doubt that this was the decision God had made for us. I have no doubts about that.
I do have doubts about how I am going to deal with the reality of going without half of myself for months at a time. I am terrified at the thought that I could loose him in this never ending war. I am angry that so many doors were slammed in our life and this was the only one left open to us. I hate that deployments with the Army are anywhere from six to eighteen months at a time.
I wanted to knock the crap out of the guy in line in front of me at the grocery store today. He paid for sixty dollars worth of chips and dip with his food stamps card and THEN pulled out a wad of fifty dollar bills to pay for his almost TWO HUNDRED dollars worth of beer and wine coolers.
My family of four (going on five) can't afford to both pay bills AND buy groceries, but we were told we made too much money to qualify for any government assistance. After my husband got passed up for the promotion he needed at work we were left with very few options. The Army is where God lead us.
I don't want to be without my husband. I don't want him to miss the birth of this child. I know that things will be tremendously better for our family financially and our health care will be so much better in the military. I know that God has lead us here for a reason. I just hate that life always seems to be so difficult for us.
Please continue to pray for us.
We are SO going to need it!
Sunday, April 29, 2007
"intact dilation and evacuation".
I want to applaud the following people:
Justice Anthony Kennedy:
For having the balls to stand up for what he believes and calling it like he sees it.
Chief Justice John Roberts
Justice Antonin Scalia
Justice Clarence Thomas
and Justice Samuel Alito
for backing him up and voting for the only morally correct choice.
For those of you who are confused, let me explain in plain pull no punches words what the above mentioned procedure really is.
By the second trimester of pregnancy a baby's nervous system is already intact and working. That means they can feel pain. If a woman decides she doesn't want to have the baby once she is in her second or third trimester (and in some states it is legal right up to your due date) she could (until recently) go to a doctor who would deliver the baby feet first. Every part of this innocent little infant is delivered except for the baby's head.
Take a moment to feel the back of your neck where it hits your skull. You feel the soft spot there? That is the spot that a doctor stabs a suction device into to rip the baby's brain to shreds before he crushes the child's head. Yes, that is graphic. The truth generally is. Those of us who believe in the sanctity of an innocent unborn child's life call the above procedure like we see it.
PARTIAL BIRTH ABORTION IS HORRIBLE
It is not some clean sterile medical procedure. It is, plain and simple, someone stabbing a baby in the back of the head until that baby is dead. We have very specific laws about how to gently put criminals and rabid animals to death, but no protection or humanity is given to unborn children... even when they feel the pain as intensely as a newborn. How screwed up is that?
ABORTION IS WRONG
There are much more sensible solutions for women of all ages. Killing a baby is never the right answer. I know I will probably get flames for this post. I don't care. I may start a regular thing of giving details of how people choose to torture and murder their unborn. It outrages me. It should you too.
Thursday, April 26, 2007
He had another MRI done this month to see how fast the cancer was progressing and spreading.
The doctor is still scratching his head.
My Dad's most recent MRI shows only three or four spots on his liver... and those are SHRINKING.
The battle is far from over. My Dad still has quite a fight ahead of him. But, as of Monday, he is WINNING!
Thank you all for your continued prayers and support.
God Bless You All!!!
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Thursday, March 29, 2007
|You Are Running on 90% Adrenaline|
Your Adrenaline Level: Very Dangerous
Life is passing you by so quickly, you hardly can notice what's going on.
You definitely need to slow down before you crash hard!