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Wednesday, March 29, 2006

Yeah!... Wait... AACK!!....

We got a new minivan... No, I got a new minivan... (Yeah!) It is pretty light blue and will eat half my monthly paycheck... But we had no choice really... The other one kept dying on us. My Mom has been watching the baby while Sam is at school so I can get my hours in at work, but we will soon have a MAJOR PROBLEM on our hands. Mom is having BOTH her knees replaced on April 10th and will be out of commission for six to eight weeks. What that means for me is... No sitter for the baby. I can not work nights because they lock the upper floor of the building after nine PM. I need a minimum of twenty-five hours per week to make bills. That means I will likely end up working two twelve and a half hour days per week (my husband's two days off) until Mom is well again. My fibromyalgia will not be pleased by that schedule, but a Mom has to do what a Mom has to do! I am dreading the long hours! (AACK!!) :(

Wednesday, March 22, 2006

Auron playing at the mall... Posted by Picasa

Tuesday, March 21, 2006

My favorite place...

My favorite place to be is wrapped in my husband's arms. I love to put my head on his chest after we have put the kids to bed for the night and just listen to his heart beat. As long as I feel his skin against mine, and his breath moving his chest beneath my cheek, I feel so safe and protected from the world. I feel so lucky that this wonderful man loves me, and wants me, and knows me so well. I am so blessed. I'm not sure why I wanted to share this with you guys, I just did. I am more and more head over heels in love with my husband every day, and I know how lucky that makes me... ::smirk:: Who needs the lotto?! I have LOVE!!!!!

Monday, March 13, 2006

Thought for the day...

I start a part time job on Tuesday. We need the money, and I will be able to set my own schedule around what is best for the kids, but I still feel a bit guilty. I think a bit of time away from them five days a week will make me feel like a "real" person again, yet at the same time, I feel like I should be here for them 24/7/365.
Ahhhh... The inner turmoil of motherhood clashing with the need to make ends meet.

Wednesday, March 08, 2006

Auron's 1st Birthday Party...

Washing off birthday cake in Mams' kitchen sink... Posted by Picasa

Auron looks cake drunk in this one... :) Posted by Picasa

MMMMMM... cake!... Birthdays are cool!!! Posted by Picasa

Mams feeding Samantha cake. Posted by Picasa

Samantha with Nana at Auron's birthday party. Posted by Picasa

Monday, March 06, 2006


There is something fundamentally wrong with the fact that I have had to use CPR on both of my children. Not full blown CPR mind you, rescue breathing was all it took, but I resent that I even had to do that.

People who have perfectly healthy children seldom really understand what a blessing they have been handed, yet seem obligated to tell me quite frequently how God only gives "special" children to "special" parents. There is so much more to having a child with a disability than being "special". There are ups and downs that no roller coaster or bungee jump on Earth could ever compete with. There are times when you just want to sit down and wait for the world to end so you don't have to watch your child go through any more operations or painful testing. There are times when your child inspires you to hope and dream and push for things that everyone around you says to forget about. A lot of it is just feeling tired, overwhelmed, angry, determined, abandoned, indignant, ignored and frustrated.

There have been so many times when I wanted to give up. Times when the struggle to make it from one day to the next threatened to break me into a thousand little pieces. I am no saint. I get angry from time to time about everything Samantha has to go through, and how unfair life seems to have turned out for us. I get jealous when I see shallow people who seem to have the world handed to them on a silver platter while we must scrape by below the poverty line. There have been so many times when I have had to fight the urge to beat some snotty little twit unconscious, for the way they acted or the thing they said about my daughter. People can be so hurtful when they don't want to understand. I get so irritated with people I see who neglect their children, and refuse to notice what a miraculous thing it is that their child CAN annoy them.

My son learned to clap today. Palms together, repetitive, purposeful clapping. Big deal, right? Well, it is a big deal to me. My daughter is six years old, and even with years of relentless therapy, is still unable to perform that simple task. Every new minute skill Auron acquires brings with it so much joy and pain. Joy because he is healthy and everything seems to come so easily for him, and pain because it highlights how difficult it is for Samantha to conquer even the smallest developmental milestone. Because of Samantha, I know what a wonderful thing it is for my son to walk across the room by his first birthday. I do not take anything for granted. I guess in that respect, I am thankful that my daughter was born with Angelman Syndrome. If she had been a typical child I probably would have never appreciated all the little things that now seem so monumental.

Before Samantha was diagnosed I saw a ballet that made me cry. The grace and beauty of the movement reminded me of my love for my newborn baby, and in my mind I could see Samantha on stage dancing along with the heavenly music. Although I know now that my beautiful girl will never be graceful enough for ballet, the change she has brought into my life is a glorious dance of its own. I hope if you read this, and have children of your own, that you take the time to marvel at what a wonderful gift you have been given. Spend time with them while they are still children, for soon they will have no time for you, and you will regret the time you missed. And please, don't take a single moment for granted. Posted by Picasa

Saturday, March 04, 2006

Picture worth a thousand words...

This is one of my photos. People kept asking me what I meant when I said I had a severely disabled child. It is hard to put into words, so I gathered all her daily medical supplies and took a photo to share with them. If you look close you can see two suction machines... One for home, and one that plugs into the car to take with us. We use them both... I promised I would share some of my photography one day... (other than snap shots of the kids) So here you are... Posted by Picasa


This was sent to me and I wanted to share it with all of you because it touched me deeply. We all have choices every day... What are yours?

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves learning disabled children,the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: "When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?"

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. "I believe, that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes, in the way other people treat that child."Then he told the following story:

Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked,"Do you think they'll let me play?" Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps. Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked if Shay could play, not expecting much. The boy looked around for guidance and said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning."

Shay struggled over to the team's bench put on a team shirt with a broad smile and his Father had a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible 'cause Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing the other team putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least be able to make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over, but the pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game. Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the head of the first baseman, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, "Shay, run to first! Run to first!" Never in his life had Shay ever ran that far but made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled. Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!" Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to second base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball, the smallest guy on their team, who had a chance to be the hero for his team for the first time. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions and he too intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home. All were screaming, "Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay" Shay reached third base, the opposing shortstop ran to help him and turned him in the direction of third base, and shouted, "Run to third Shay, run to third" As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams and those watching were on their feet screaming, "Shay, run home!

Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the "grand slam" and won the game for his team.

That day, said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world. Shay didn't make it to another summer and died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his Father so happy and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

AND, NOW A LITTLE FOOTNOTE TO THIS STORY: We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people think twice about sharing. The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and workplaces. If you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're probably sorting out the people on your address list that aren't the "appropriate" ones to receive this type of message. Well, I believe that we all can make a difference. We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the "natural order of things." So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice:

Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up that opportunity to brighten the day of those with us the least able, and leave the world a little bit colder in the process? A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them.

I registered Samantha to play T-ball this morning. She will be the only child with severe disabilities to ever play with a regular team in our town. I hope our community is as accepting of her as the boys in this story were to Shay.

Thursday, March 02, 2006

Auron sleeping this morning. Posted by Picasa

Auron making a funny face in the bathtub. Posted by Picasa